Valentines Day, Re-post, Valentine Be Mine (The Women Men Really Want)

The Women Men Really Want 

Win A Good Mans Heart For Keeps

Written By: Jeffrey R Hilton

Feb.6 2012

Your Key To A Lasting Relationship

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In light of the fact that Valentines day is approaching, I have written this post to help women gain a better understanding of what they really need to know to get together and form a quality,  lasting relationship with a good man.  What men want ,  and what women think they want are often construed as two different things.  Understanding the difference can increase your chances of survival.  This is why a lot of relationship's often end with a broken heart.  Knowing the difference can be the difference in finding and forming a long term relationship that's healthy and strong.  A broken heart isn't much better than a lonely heart, so let me tell you how cure both,  based on heaps of reliably sourced and collected data,  years of relationship experiences,  and the lessons learned therein.  I still believe in love and am an incurable romantic spanning decades, so don't even think this is a halfhearted attempt to give you information that isn't useful,  meaningful and sincere.




Women do want much the same things as men do,  and the first thing we have to do is clear up some misconceptions that you may have about this.  Women,  often think that men cannot be trusted. This is an unfair judgment and a man in a quality relationship that works well is highly unlikely to be unfaithful.  With the exception of men that are known bad boys that get hooked up with girls that are attracted to this kind of guy,  and to those,  infidelity shouldn't be a surprise.  Many women believe that men want them to be superficial and keep their needs to themselves,  rarely asking for anything.  This is also a fallacy.  They often think that men will think they are being needy and they will be rejected if they speak out about their needs.  That is also a fallacy.  What women think men want often causes resentment and anger towards them,  leaving women feeling hopeless.  What men think women want causes the same feelings and frustration.  Never mind!  I'm here for the purpose of sorting that out for you once and for all and I do take love seriously!

COMMUNICATION

You may be surprised to learn that good communication is one of your best allies to make a relationship work.  Women often think that men are not good communicators,  and this for the most part,  just isn't true.  A good man will always be glad to have an open line of communication with you,  and most men,  want a women that has no problem communicating,  as long as it's with kindness and respect.  Men do not like to be given signals and hints or having to try to read your mind constantly when we sense somethings amiss.  Come out and tell us what it is that is on your mind.  We will appreciate your honesty and thank you kindly for not making us guess what's wrong all the time.  A good man will respect you for that and having a voice and an opinion of your own.  Good,  honest communication that is presented in a non critical manner,  along with kindness and respect for each others feelings,  is a must.  Be honest from the start.  If we start something more serious with you,  we want to know if you have a psycho ex boyfriend that stalks you,  before he comes to the door looking for you, smacking a tire iron in his palm,  so we can plan ahead for such an event.   


Men do not like to be manipulated in any way and are keenly aware of when we are being manipulated.  Always be straight forward and honest about your intentions and your feelings with your partner.  Learn to communicate your needs effectively. Communicate at the right time of day, when you know your partner is more likely to be open, able and willing to talk freely,  face to face.

FIDELITY

Fidelity is as important to a good man, as it is to a good woman, and lack of it will lead to a breakup.  Men do not like women that have a roving eye whenever they see a hunky guy.   Does that sound familiar ?  Men that openly ogle other women in your presence,  and go even farther by commenting on each girl they see,  are not the kind of good man I am talking about here.  Genuinely good men are gentlemen and know that this is rude,  disrespectful and ill mannered.  If we do steal the occasional look,  it is with the discreetness of a gentleman.  If you don't think you can be true to one good man, then it's highly unfair to start a relationship. Fidelity is the main ingredient in a healthy relationship. 

NEEDS

A man's needs are usually not that complicated.  Most of us like to keep things simple and we like to make plans.  We even like to cancel those plans at the last minute occasionally without being suspect.  We like to be loved and when we feel loved,  we like to reciprocate.  We like the truth from you,  and we like to be able to tell you the truth and always will,  if you don't overreact.  We like a partner that believes in preserving each others dignity when things don't go according to plan.  We like to be complimented,  acknowledged and encouraged.  We need a woman that is confident and takes care of herself.  We need to have some downtime on our own to pursue hobbies,  relax, play sports or hang out with friends.  We often like to include you in at least one or more of our hobbies or interests.  We need your undivided attention when we go out together sometimes and often will prefer to go out alone with you to attain this.  We need to be respected and like to share meals.  Especially when you cook them.  We need a girl that's in shape and not afraid to mention when and if,  we are not in shape, and be comfortable enough to ask us to do something about it for you.  We need a woman that we can trust implicitly,  and confide in without fear of breach of confidentiality.  

PREFERRED WOMEN  ( WANTS)

We like a woman that is active and fit.  We don't care if your not a supermodel,  as long as you are fit,  you're a hit,  and very attractive.  We don't particularly like a woman that wears a ton of makeup.  As a matter of fact,  it's a turnoff and we prefer the more natural look with minimal makeup.  Bright red lipstick is often a turnoff and the prospect of kissing you is shaky.  We like a women that is supportive of us and a good listener.  We like a woman that looks the best she can,  and takes pride in her looks.  especially when we are going out somewhere.  We like women that have hobbies and friends of their own.  We prefer our women confident in themselves.  We like a woman that can wear jeans one minute and a skirt or dress the next and be comfortable with both.  We love girls that are handy and can put together a flat packed furniture item all by themselves.  We like a girl that enjoys the outdoors and fresh air.  We like women that are emotionally mature.  Pretending your a helpless girl that can't do anything simple like putting oil in the car or air in the tire can be rather off-putting and tiresome.

SEX

Yes, we like sex to.  We like it regularly and like it to be exciting and fun.  We like a girl that's open and in touch with her feelings about sex.  We like a girl that's not afraid to experiment in the bedroom and a girl that's vocal.  We like you to initiate sex sometimes to,  and are more turned on when you are wearing sexy lingerie,  or a sexy bra and panties, rather than being totally naked,  if sex is what's on your mind.      We like a woman that's comfortable with her own body enough to make love with the light on.  We are very visual characters.   We love a woman in touch with her femininity and lightly scented perfumes used sparingly as to create a softly muted whisper of scented flowers drives us crazy.  Discuss your sexual dislikes and likes early on in a relationship openly and honestly. 

DISLIKES

We don't like mind games and like women that can laugh at themselves and have a sense of humor.  We don't like women that wear spandex and jogging pants every day.  Talking about your ex or comparing us to them all the time is a turnoff.  Guys like women that can keep time and be on time.   Most guys hate being late for an appointment and even like to arrive early.  Guys like girls that choose them out of desire and strongly dislike over eager or desperate women.  Guys dislike being hurried in a relationship. Guys don't like girls that are indecisive or drama queens that over react. Guys are attracted to women that are classy but down to earth,  confident but not arrogant, and well mannered.


These tips are meant to help women better understand the needs and wants of men,  so they are better armed to gain a meaningful relationships or improve an existing one.  I sincerely wish you luck in your pursuit of this fulfillment.

Now You Have The Lock And Key

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Do Have A Good Day And A Great Valentines Day. 

Jeffrey R Hilton